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A Visit to Aberdare

4/1/2013

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PictureEbenezer Chapel, Trecynon, Aberdare
The New Year is regarded as a time for new things, hopes and aspirations, but this year I find I am still feeling sad after the passing away of my mother-in-law in Wales. We travelled down after Christmas to collect her ashes from the undertaker, and we made a journey to Aberdare in the Cynon Valley.  My son and his girlfriend were with us, and my husband walked us round Trecynon, the district of Aberdare where his family lived for generations.
 
After hearing many of the family stories over the years, it was affecting to see how nearby everything was. They could easily have walked from the house where my father-in-law was born and which became their family home after their marriage to visit friends and relatives in the streets nearby. Most of their needs were catered for within a very small area: shops, school, chapel, Free Library, and the Coliseum Theatre, where they took part in the amateur theatricals. The beautiful Aberdare park, where huge processions from the various chapels paraded at Whitsun, was also nearby. Opposite the house is a bus-stop, where, in years gone by, the miners would gather for the bus to the pit, and where they would sometimes sing while they were waiting. This was an integrated life, where people were sure of their place in their community, even though life was a struggle particularly through the years of the Great Depression and the World Wars.
 
It was upsetting to see Ebenezer Chapel, where the family had worshipped, up for sale, and derelict. The minister at my mother-in-law’s funeral, an Aberdare man himself, spoke of the moral force this Chapel had once had (formidable was the word he used), its influence in the town and marvellous choral singing. An erudite man, he had clearly used this adjective most particularly – the Oxford Dictionary of English defines formidable as inspiring fear or respect through being impressively large, powerful, intense, or capable. Seventeen years ago, when my father-in-law died, I recall the wonderful hymns sung at his funeral there – and the ‘hwyl’ (a Welsh word, roughly translated as soul/enthusiasm/spirit) with which the congregation sang in his honour. At the annual Cymanfa Ganus (hymn-singing festivals) once held here, the chapel was so full that extra chairs had to be set out in the aisles. In fact, the Cymanfa Ganu movement originated in Aberdare in 1859.
 
My mother-in-law’s grandfather, miner Richard Wigley, sang tenor in the celebrated South Wales Choral Union (‘Y Côr Mawr’) led by Griffith Rhys Jones (Caradog) of Aberdare, which won prizes in 1872 and 1873 at the Crystal Palace, London.
 
The religious revivals of the 19th century gave rise to the building of chapels, great and small, all over Wales. They undoubtedly had a binding and guiding influence on the people caught up in the furore of industrial development in South Wales, but today a great many of them are up for sale or closed. As GM Trevelyan, the historian said; “The dead were and are not. Their place knows them no more and is ours today...  once, on  this earth, once, on this familiar spot of ground, walked other men and women, as actual as we are today, thinking their own thoughts, swayed by their own passions, but now all gone, one generation vanishing into another, gone as utterly as we ourselves shall shortly be gone, like ghosts at cockcrow.”
 
My in-laws were proud of Aberdare. In its heyday it boasted many large fine and well-used buildings like the Ritz Cinema, the Temperance Hotel, and great Victorian Grammar schools. Today it has a sadly run-down aspect, though plans are afoot for urban regeneration. It has suffered the fate of so many towns where heavy industry and work have moved away. The
Little Theatre, opened in 1931 by the Trecynon Amateur Dramatic Society, is now a storage shed for window-frames, we heard.
 
But the people of Aberdare are as warm and friendly as ever. We had lunch at Servini’s Café in the town, where Mam and Dad may well have enjoyed an ice-cream when they were children. Afterwards we called in on a relative for several cups of tea and a long chat. Here’s
wishing the people of Aberdare a Happy New Year.

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Give a hug for Christmas

24/12/2012

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I recently lost my mother-in-law, who I first met when I was nineteen. I lived in London at the time, and had just started going out with my husband to be. He was going home to Wales for Christmas, and when Mam and Dad heard that I would be on my own for the holidays, they immediately invited me to spend the time with them. I caught the coach down to Swansea, where Martin and his father met me at the bus station. Dad held out his hand and greeted me jovially with, "Welcome to Wales, Judy!" and later I enjoyed an equally warm reception from Mam.

In the years since, Mam has been a consistently supportive, loving presence in my life, and a wonderful grandmother to our son. She and I sometimes got on each other's nerves, no-one's perfect! She didn't like reading, for example, so I always had the comment "Oh! So we're in the library now, are we?" whenever I got a book out on holiday, which used to rattle my cage, but we always made things up, and we had lots of good times. I valued her kindness, generosity and patience. She was steadfast, a stalwart. She and Dycu (Welsh for
Grandad) had my son Tom to stay for all of his summers. Dycu passed away seventeen years ago, and Mam stoically carried on without him.

This will be our first Christmas season without seeing Mam since 1975. I miss her. And, as always when a loved one passes away, cannot help reflecting on ways I could have been more loving. In my mind, Mam's faults have flown up and away, like chaff in the wind, and what is left is the memory of the goodness at the heart of her.

Tolstoy wrote in his diary as a very young man:

 "The powerful means for achieving true happiness in life is - and without any dogmas - to spread out from oneself, in every direction, like a spider, a whole spider's web of love, and to catch in it everything that comes along - whether it is an old woman or a child, a girl or a
policeman."

At this time of celebration of love and light, reading this encourages me to try and give as many hugs, kisses, pats, and expressions of warmth and goodwill, as I can. Christmas is one of those times when you can feel extra lonely and unloved if you're on the outside of things.


 

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When Fledglings Fly the Nest

15/9/2012

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A friend of mine will be delivering her son to his university hall of residence this weekend. I remember how I felt when we dropped our son off at his lodgings in Wimbledon for his first term at art school. We helped him in with his cases, boxes of CDs, books, art materials etc, bounced on his bed to test the mattress, peeped inside the wardrobe and the bathroom, and then took our leave. I waved a cheery goodbye, turned round and walked towards the car and promptly burst into tears! Luckily my husband drove the 35 miles home as I sobbed and snuffled beside him.  

I had a similar reaction at most of the significant partings we meet along the road to independence for our children: the first day at the child-carers, at nursery, and primary school, and probably one day I will cry at my son's wedding!
 
But we can't help how we feel, and I hope my friend won't choke her tears down if they come. They do come back to see you, some even move back in! And, although not all mother-child relationships are as good as they could be, it is a unique, immutable bond. 

I first came across the following passage from Kahlil Gibran's wonderful classic The Prophet when I was at grammar school. As is always the case when something speaks directly to our condition, as Quakers say, I knew immediately that for me, it was a truth. I copied it out for my favourite teacher, and in the years since I've copied it out for quite a few others. I still love it.

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
But seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
As living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
And He bends you with His might
That His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
So He loves also the bow that is stable.





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Fun With Words

11/8/2012

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Our family, like many others, dearly loves words, and wordplay. My late father wrote songs and poetry in his young days, and he wrote and acted in plays with his siblings in their shared Edwardian childhood.  My siblings and I all loved puns, and the flurry of activity on facebook that starts up every now and then shows that we still do! We also enjoyed thrashing each other at Scrabble!

 When my son was small we had a lot of fun every morning before breakfast building up elaborate fantastical verbal structures with words, little firework displays of sparks catching fire from the other's ideas. In this way, playing led to his learning about how to use language to express himself.  When he had something to tell us, we tried hard to stop and listen carefully, and to talk back. And of course, having actors in the family made for ever-ready amusement at double-entendres!

On long car-journeys, my husband and I often compare words in Spanish, German, Italian, French and English etc with their Welsh equivalent. It's endlessly fascinating to see where Latin has endured in some instances, whereas in others the northern European has won out - eg with the word for milk: leche (Spanish), latte (Italian), lait (French) and llaeth (Welsh) 
are all obviously related, whereas the English word is brother to the German - milch.

A number of the words beginning with the letters 'sn' seem to have a family relationship, all with a bit of a nasty flavour eg sneer, snide, snigger, sneaky. When you say these words out loud, the tongue hisses and the top lip bunches up under the nose, which itself crinkles, the teeth below being bared. Is this a physical manifestation of an aggressive vocal expression, I wonder? 

I love language, languages, and dialects, and the smallest one of all, the nuclear family dialect, made up of shared experiences and family jokes - things misheard, lines from favourite films or songs, the things children got wrong, which stick around.  

Some expressions may have been handed down for generations. When my son was at art school, some Chinese students in his studio were highly amused to hear him say "Ay - ahh!" when he hit his thumb while making a canvas. They explained that this sounded like a Chinese expression made when in pain. He told them that it was something he had picked up from me. I've never been to China, but my father's grandfather exported wool from Wiltshire to Shanghai in the nineteenth-century, and the family lived out there for some years. Perhaps I inherited it from the generations before me? Who knows?


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The Mothers' Hospital

5/8/2012

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I have a special place in my heart for the Salvation Army, not just because of the practical hands-on way they practise the principles of their spiritual beliefs by coming to the aid of those of us who are less fortunate than others, but also because I gave birth to my son in the Mothers' Hospital, Hackney.

By the time Tom was born, in 1982, the Mothers' had been taken over by the NHS, but it was still staffed by a number of Salvation Army nurses. I had never been a regular churchgoer, nor was I a confirmed Christian, but at this powerfully moving time of my life, I found it profoundly comforting when the nurses came in to our small ward and offered prayers and hymns.

I was also grateful for the opportunity given by the hospital to stay in for almost a week, as I grew used to the idea of being a mother, and to having such a huge new responsibility now my son was in the world. The Mothers' had a number of traditions, one being that even if you were a repeat visitor to the maternity hospital, you were still invited to attend the lesson on bathing baby!

Over the 30 years since, from time to time I have met others who either gave birth or were born in the Mothers', perhaps most memorably the elderly lady I encountered while looking round the beautiful old synagogue in Dubrovnik (incidentally the only synagogue in Western Europe that remained open throughout WW2).

I will always be grateful to the Mothers' for the warm encouragement I was given. 
And I continue to be grateful that I live in a time and a place where that is available for all women, and equally aware that in many parts of the world this is not the case. My own mother had eight children by the time she was 36 years old.

For those who might be interested in reading about a time when this was not so in the UK, I can most highly recommend the wonderful book Maternity: Letters from Working Women, Collected by the Women's Co-operative Guild (Virago) edited by Margaret Llewelyn Davies, first published during the First World War, in 1915. Here follows an extract, with grateful thanks to Virago:

A WAGE-EARNING MOTHER (extract from longer letter)

"I myself had some very hard times, as I had to go out to work in the mill. I was a weaver, and we had a lot of lifting to do. My first baby was born before its time, from me lifting my piece off the loom on to my shoulder, as two of us had them to lift, and then carry them from the shed across the yard to be weighed. If I had been able to take care of myself I should not have had to suffer as I did for seven weeks before that baby was born and for three months after; and then there was the baby suffering as well, as he was a weak
little thing for a long time, and cost pounds that could have been saved had I been able to stay at home and look after myself. But I could not do so, as my husband was short of work; and when I had my second baby I had to work all through again, as my husband was short of work and ill at the time. So there was another poorly baby. While I was carrying this one he only worked three months out of the nine. I could not get any support at all then. I had to go out to work again at the month-end, and put the baby out to nurse. I had to get up at four in the morning, and get my baby out of bed, wash and dress it, and then leave home by five, as I had half an hour's walk to take my baby to my mother's, and then go to my work and stand all day till half-past five at night, and then the walk home again with my baby. I had to do this with three of them. I think you will understand I have had my share; and all my children have had to be brought with instruments. I have had six living children and one miscarriage.... "
Wages 28 shillings (£1.40) a week.

 Links for further reading on the Mothers' Hospital:
http://www1.salvationarmy.org.uk/uki/www_uki_ihc.nsf/stc-vw-sublinks/FFCF49855F479E718025704B0043C860?openDocument

http://health.hackneysociety.org/page_id__184_path__0p4p.aspx

http://www.homerton.nhs.uk/about-the-trust/our-history/mothers-hospital-1884-1986-/


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Dad & The Pirate Aeroplane

7/7/2012

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PictureDad as a boy - circa 1917
Recently when I visited Nailsworth in the Cotswolds for a family reunion, my eye was drawn immediately to a very attractive independent bookshop - The Yellow-Lighted Bookshop. It had a wonderful array of books laid out on its tables and shelves, a smiley person behind the counter - bright and airy - what more could a hungry bookworm want? Not only that, they had an amazing Book Festival on, located at the
Friends Meeting House in the town. I wasn't able to attend this, but I've kept the info about all the writers and books featured, for future reference!

Sadly in Tunbridge Wells, though we have 2nd hand bookshops, charity bookshops, and chain bookshops (Waterstones and WH Smith) we no longer have an independent bookshop, though in nearby Sevenoaks there is a fantastic indie. Whenever I go in there my mouth literally starts watering at all the gorgeous books on display. We are also grateful to them for stocking both of our Odd Dog Press publications.

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Letter to Sevenoaks Chronicle July 5, 2012
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When I was young, there was no internet, no boot sales, and far fewer charity shops. Nowadays, I probably buy books via a mix of routes: the odd book from Amazon, from The Bridge Trust shop in Tonbridge, and being a true addict, even from the tiny village shop en route to work, where books are donated, and the owner sells them in aid of Motor Neurone Disease charity fundraising. After all, when I'm waiting to be served with bread or milk or a postage stamp, what else would I do but look through the book box? But where I can, I try and include the independent bookshops in there from time to time.

 When I lived in Islington in the late 1970s, my boyfriend (now long-time husband!) and I had no TV. Instead, we read a lot. There was a  wonderful 2nd hand bookshop in Upper Street then, the Compton Bookshop, run by a very nice gay couple. We used to pop in on a Saturday morning and spend a couple of quid each on a pile of books (good clean paperbacks at 20p a throw then), and go back a month or so later for another lot.

My mother told me that my Dad, in his 70s by then, had been reading a Graham Greene autobiography which had mentioned a book Greene had loved as a child - The Pirate Aeroplane by Major Gilson. My Dad also had read this as a boy, and had longed to read it again but never been able to find a copy. I spoke to the guys at the Compton, and they placed an ad in the book trade papers. A month or two later I received a postcard from them - they had been offered two copies, one in very good condition, with an excellent
dust-cover, and could sell me this at the princely sum of £2! Of course I bought it, packed it up and sent it off to Spain. Mum told me that Dad had wept with joy and pleasure when he opened it. I have the book on my shelves today. Still not got round to reading it - it's a very early 20th century boys' adventure book of its pre-World War One time, so not entirely politically correct today - but I treasure what my Dad has written on the inside cover, including the following: This "discovery" (Foyles couldn't help me!) seems to me to have
something of "magic" about it. I only know that this amazing 'find' has done
something wonderful to my morale. I feel that God MUST like me a little bit to
give me this lovely surprise!

Well gentle readers, that's what an independent bookshop did for me and my old Dad! I know that Amazon has made it possible for us all to access practically anything from around the world through the post, and of course, that is pretty amazing and welcome in its place, but let's not forget that without libraries and bookshops, and the love and hard work which so many people who work in them put in on a daily basis, those books might not be there to buy. And at least some of the time, in order for the hard copy industry to survive, and for writers to earn an honest crust, we need to pay the full price (another blog, another time!).
 
Support your local independent bookshop!

www.sevenoaksbookshop.co.uk

www.yellow-lightedbookshop.co.uk

www.odddogpress.com


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At Morning Prayers we sit cross-legged

2/6/2012

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I've been meaning to add this poem for a long time - something I took to one of the regular Kent & Sussex Poetry Society workshops. It concerns a somewhat traumatic incident in my early childhood that took place at Mercers' School in Hawkhurst - long since demolished!


Mrs P at the piano, all rouge, nicotine and faded hair
beside her black-bunned Mrs Smith
fierce, upright, a bamboo spear:

One of you has written something filthy in the upstairs lavatory
No-one will leave the Hall until that person owns up.

Silence.

No hand goes up; I can’t be sure, I’m questioning my guilt
but pressure’s building, a red balloon beats against my ribs
the urge to confess overwhelming until
out of my mouth come the words It was me.

All heads turn. Miss White, pinkly flustered, is ordered
to take me to the kitchen, wash out my mouth with soap
and gently leads me through the bacon-scented passage
where, bursting into tears I sob But
Miss,
I only wrote
I Love Maxie, and am saved, for what
she knows, I don’t.

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Following our bliss

17/4/2012

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What kind of things do we dream of doing when we’re small?  I guess travelling through the Wardrobe and meeting Aslan was high on my list. I also loved reading and writing and learning about new things. I won a prize at  my primary school for writing an adventure story about being marooned on a  desert island (nod to Daniel Defoe), and my headmistress told me she confidently expected to read my books one day.  For the next couple of decades I spent time as a theatrical agent, mum, reflexologist and alumni officer, and was generally busy in other ways, always thinking about writing, but not yet ready to get down to it, apart from the odd article at work.

A workshop offered at my work-place with Lynne Rees got me started on writing poetry again (discontinued in my teenage years) and I have kept this up ever since.  Joining the Kent & Sussex Poetry Society has been a fantastic resource, with their monthly readings and peer-led workshops, and I have also been really grateful for the mentoring help I’ve received from Cornwall-based poet Caroline Carver.

My husband and I have arrived at a similar point now in our lives, where writing has flowered into a fully formed and active passion. We have supported each other in researching, editing and completing our  own separate first books – mine a local history non-fiction book, Southborough War Memorial, his a novel, Niedermayer & Hart. We worked together to set up
Odd Dog Press, our own independent publishing enterprise, and put together our own websites. Our son Tom has generously given us beautiful artwork, and recently a fantastic comic animation to promote N&H. Good friends have also supported us in this endeavour, making helpful suggestions, proofreading, offering their expertise and generally encouraging us with their enthusiasm.

We have given a lot of time and savings to our  joint venture, and there are days when it can seem a bit scary to go out on this limb, but hey – I always loved climbing trees! Maybe one of these days I’ll achieve another long-standing ambition, and get to climb the Californian Redwoods!  In the meantime, there’s nothing quite as exciting as getting an order, and despatching a book to an eager new reader. 
 
And when someone genuinely loves your work and takes the time and trouble to tell you so … wow! It’s like Christmas in Narnia!


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Pen Portraits

16/10/2011

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I've started a new page on my website for pen portraits of people in different walks of life. The first one is my father, actor James Hayter, pictured here in The Crimson Pirate.

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Made in England

13/3/2011

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I use these tongs on a regular basis, for grilling, turning things etc. I remember my grandmother using them when she was frying bacon for breakfast some 50 years ago. Built to last! I wonder how many other people regularly use things in their home, such as these, inherited from family? It's quite difficult to find things today that are made in England, but if you want to find something beautiful, look no further than Glover & Smith, who make exquisite things from pewter and silver at their workshop in Wiltshire. We have several lovely things which were given to us. See their website: http://www.gloverandsmith.co.uk

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